What If You Said, I Love You?

So here we are at Valentines Day. I don’t love or hate this day. I am pretty neutral on the subject but I do like it for one reason–hopefully it is a reminder to just love in general. We definitely need more love in this chaotic world. But I have been thinking about something a lot lately . . .how often do you hold back saying, I love you?

It doesn’t matter if you hold back because you just assume the other person knows how you feel. It doesn’t matter if you think you have shown how you feel. It doesn’t matter if you are afraid of being the first person to say it. AND IT REALLY DOESN’T MATTER if you are afraid of saying it because you are unsure of what the other person’s reaction might be.

Take stock of how often you say, I love you. So I am issuing a challenge for today and going forward . . . If you want to tell someone you love . . . TELL THEM. If you think you have told someone that you love them enough times . . . YOU HAVEN’T.  Yes, saying those three little words changes things and I promise you–it will change for the better.

I am talking about all levels of love that you can express to anyone that you come in contact with. Just say it. Just be that person that everyone thinks is crazy but secretly wishes they were just as bold . . .and yes, I am talking about romantic love as well. It is Valentine’s Day isn’t it?

So here are 5 quotes to help you with saying those three little words to your romantic interest. If you choose to accept the challenge; please let me know how it goes!

Love in the Form of Self-Care

We tend to spend a lot of time showing our love to others this month and while I highly recommend us always showing love to others, I decided to give a quick reminder that we need to show love to ourselves as well.

Loving ourselves is self-care and helps us be that better person in the world around  us. When we take care of the inner person we are able to take care of others, show more compassion and empathy–and . . . love.

Try it! See how you respond to others when you take some time for yourself. Here are 5 quick ways to show love to ourselves.

Share with me your ideas as well!

  1. Say, “I Love You” out-loud while looking in the mirror into your own eyes. This might be awkward but the more you say it out loud the more your soul will start to believe it and you will find yourself less judgmental of others.
  2. Step outside. It doesn’t have to be long but you need to walk long enough to take 10 deep breaths. It really is amazing what fresh air and deep breathing can do for your body and mind. It will help you refocus, calm down, and bring more energy to continue on.
  3. Be present in the moment. Do you ever wonder how you got from one point to other? Do you lose your train of thought too quickly? Stop trying to be present in everything and start being present where you find yourself. Only good comes from this and some examples are; cooking better because you don’t forget things, driving home without being in an accident, and listening and engaging when others are talking.
  4. Shut off electronics and go rogue. I know a lot of people talk about this but they are saying it for a reason. Instead of switching on the TV at night to decompress, try reading a book, playing a game, completing a puzzle, or playing an instrument. The possibilities are endless!
  5. Enjoy your food. For one meal or dessert, try not eating to just get through it and get back to what you were doing. Actually sit down with no other intention than to enjoy what has been placed in front of you. Relish every bite and enjoy the moment. Your body will thank you for not just shoveling food into it.

Valentine’s Day

So no one need recognize that is Saturday and not Friday. We are going to pretend that yesterday didn’t escape me!  🙂
So moving on . . . Did everyone realize that it is Valentine’s Day today?!
I actually like the holiday.
I like seeing men pick out flowers and look bewildered while doing it (case in point this morning at Sam’s club) and also asking other women standing around in a salon what they would like if they were getting a spa gift card (also happened today while I was getting my eyebrows waxed).
By way of announcement . . . I am not making fun of these men. I really truly love that they think today is important enough to be out and about early picking out things for their loved one. The only thing I want to do is run a website that functions like Pinterest but automatically emails the husband or boyfriend the updates of things that their woman likes and where to get it so that they don’t look so bewildered. It would be sweet justice for all.
So I think I should list the top 5 things I would want this Valentine’s Day. Anyone else care to join me?
1.       I am a SUCKER for flowers especially my most favorite flowers which are black tulips but these are my very close second runner ups.
2.       I am not a huge fan of chocolates but if I could have one of these chocolate peanut butter shakes from Moonstruck Chocolates I would be totally happy and yes, that is the world’s best chocolate peanut butter shake.    
3.       I think taking a walk here would be wonderful
4.       And I think the best saying on loving the right person is: and so the adventure beings.
5.       I would wear these for a night of dancing and no, I don’t mean clubbing. There is a difference. Got to act insane on this day once in awhile.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!!